Our Roles, Ourselves
After exploring how to make object some of the external predicaments we face in the external world, I’m going to switch back to thinking about how making things we were once subject to can make a difference to our internal worlds.
Where we’d left off, I’d been writing about how people can and likely do see you through the role that you play, not the person that you are. As Julie Diamond notes in talking about her work in Power: A User’s Manual,
As a leader, remembering that you are a role—the current occupant of your office—helps remind you that people will treat you as a role…If you take the role of leader personally, you start to believe that you are exceptional (or you sink under the weight of criticism and expectation).
It’s worth taking a minute to reflect upon when and how you first came to understand or have inklings that people were seeing you for the role that you filled for them in their lives rather than as the person that you are.
You might also wonder about when and how you experience yourself for who you are rather than based upon how you meet the expectations of the worlds around you.